He is the one sitting quietly in the corner sofa of a cafe and observing things around. He sees everything and nothing. He is as comfortable ordering a single black coffee as working on his regular day job. He is a bit shy and quiet – at first. But his smile hides a lot of stories and to know those, you need to get through his heart to his blog where he keeps his old colored secrets hidden.
You see, he gets inspired and restless sometimes. Some nights when he is exhausted from work, he feels like walking back home and that’s when the ideas haunt him. He is thinking about traveling, his bike or that old friend who he could never quite forget. So, when he enters his apartment, the first thing he does is open up his laptop and type out his incoherent but genuine thoughts on wordpress. Only then, he realizes that he is super hungry.
Date a guy who blogs and writes. He has habituated his mind to articulate and while he may not be a polished speaker, he can express his feelings in a way that you can understand. You might have to check his blog after a date that you thought went okayish and you will discover that he has written a poem on how you smiled every time you talked about your earrings. You will discover that he remembered the tiny detail you mentioned even though his countenance lacked interest.
Date a guy who is sensitive enough to blog. Don’t talk to him about jewelry or ask him how you look before you have decoded him. He will be quiet in the beginning, almost awkward. Ask him why he quoted Tennyson in his last post and he will tell you absolutely random stories of how he loves Bond movies. Be a part of his writing and his stories, inspire him to write and he will pour out his heart to you. Now, he will tell you that you look cute in those dangling earrings and that you should wear that wooden bracelet.
He will not console you on failures or tragedies but he will be there listening without interrupting. He will be anything but fake. He may tell on your face that you complain too much but that’s because you are in his inner circle now and you are, for him, a part of his own self . And he doesn’t lie to himself. He expects nothing short of you, so don’t use your fake tears to get something done, he will soon lose interest in you. He doesn’t like dressing up but will have his weird muses. Don’t boss him around or you shall find a subtle rebellious post the next day on his blog and perhaps, the last one for you. Be his muse and take pride in it.
Pardon him when he looks dreamily at your and smiles for no reason. He is just falling in love with you again and again but too inward to say it out loud. With him around, you will need nothing else because small trips to cafes will feel like witnessing a broadway. He will never be busy for you and will go out of his way to steal a walk with you and make you smile. He is not too ambitious to plan a secure future but he will be game whenever you ask him to take you for a ride. He will talk and laugh in your company and appreciate that because you are the only one he can be carefree with.
Things will not always be bright and he will seem distant and cloudy at times – his beard literally clouding his chin. Give him time and don’t impose. Let him break free of his thoughts but be around just in case he needs to kiss you. He will mess up at times when you need him but remember he never lied to you. It will hurt but he will find you when you are fallen and will help both of you survive the setbacks.
Celebrate his birthday with words, write something for him – he will treasure that forever and may even post it on his facebook before changing his relationship status to ‘in a relationship’. And when the time is right, set up a joint blog with him. You will find a daily piece of love that will change your life forever.
You will counter that such a guy doesn’t exist and you are half right because he is a rare breed and a prized keep. So, you know what to do if you ever cross paths with him.
(Pic by Thomas Leauthard)
-Inspired from Don’t date a girl who travels.